The expectation that something dreadful is about to happen brings a worrisome apprehension into your thought life. Imaginations begin to blossom and you replay the same old tape over again, singing the tune of: “what if’s.” You’ve taught yourself to expect the worse and begin looking for it to happen. As your self-fulfilled prophecy, comes to pass; “you knew it would happen, because you expected it.”
Sound familiar? You are not alone in these thinking processes. Fear is the largest strongman that abounds on this planet earth, as he tell lies, destroys families and robs others of peace and joy. Where there was once a zealous love for others can be replaced by thoughts of consuming introspection. How did this ever happen and how can you climb your way back out of this dark pit?
Everywhere I look, I see doom and gloom. When listening to the media, all you hear is bad, sad news. When I talk to a friend of mine and she tells me that everyone she talks to are afraid of what is going to happen in their lives and in their nation. Fear and more fear is being reproduced through the airwaves, into our living rooms, while we drive, wherever we happen to be at the time and we are listening to this junk. This junk, then travels into our ears and if we allow it; goes one step further, into our hearts. When it settles into our hearts, we multiply these toxic statements every time we bring it up in conversations and it goes back into the airwaves once again and repeats the cycle all over again. We are multiplying fear, by accepting what people are saying at their word! This doesn’t mean that everyone who is reporting the news is lying, but due to the negative words of war on terrorism, death and starvation (to name a few subjects) doesn’t mean we have to hang onto every word they speak or build upon them. We only do that because we form habits of complaining, which can easily be a manifestation of anger. This is another cycle that is homegrown from fear. Fear can cause, Anger = depression = complaints. Fear can also be related to pride in some people. Such as: Fear of losing the race or the deal, fear of humiliation, fear of “making a fool of yourself.” Where have we heard that one? Out of many mouths.
Job said, “For the thing which I greatly fear comes upon me, and that of which I am afraid befalls me” in 3:25amp. Job was considered by God to be a perfect and upright man in his sight. He lost his home, his livestock and all his family. He was stricken with boils all over his body and the pain was so great, he looked disfigured. When his wife urged him to renounce God and die, his reply was, “What? Shall we accept [only] good at the hand of God and shall we not accept [also] misfortune and what is of a bad nature? In [spite of] all this Job did not sin with his lips.” 2:10amp. Later on, Job is so miserable, he asks why he was even born. His three “godly” friends give him long lectures on why this has happened to him. They have the answer to his problems and relay how Job is truly a victim of God’s anger. Who needs friends like that! In other words, they were saying “since you have lost everything you have, God must really be against you! You need to repent and do penitence.” How sad, that this same scenario is still being played today in various ways. It is called “judging others.” It is for this reason that other’s fear what other’s are thinking about themselves. If we are honest, we know deep down, how people judge, because most of us do it to each other, without even thinking. We have to train ourselves out of this self righteous act. In reality, we cannot judge anyone if we are honest and examine our own hearts.
People live in fear of not being able to measure up in other people’s eyes. They may not be thin enough, tall enough, smart enough or pretty enough. This fear takes them to the plastic surgeon so they can be accepted instead of rejected. Job’s “friends” were actually rejecting him by judging him. Job stood his ground, although he was terribly disappointed in his friends. Fear can come through believing the lie, that you are not worthy of love. Love is what everyone is after. Most of the time, we get married because we are in love, we have babies because we love, hopefully, we go to work because we love it. Our whole existence is because of love. We search for love on the internet, through introductions to other people, hanging out in different areas in the hope of meeting the right person at the right time. It’s all about love. Love is the opposite of fear. Fear will keep you from love and fulfilling your greatest desires if you choose to listen to the lies that fear whispers. Fear will say, “you are too old now, no one will ever want you.” Believe me when I say this, there is always someone around the corner who will find you attractive and would find you to be, the perfect person!” You just haven’t met each other yet. The only time it is too late, is when you are pushing up daisies.
