Your friend gently tells you she understands what you have been going through, because she has gone through the same thing. Peace enters into your heart, as you begin to feel lighter and a lift of encouragement and acceptance. Your problem is still there, only now there is optimism. You sense a new born strength, after discovering an opened ear who understands exactly what you are going through. You now have a ally. How sweet it smells!
A good word that is given at the right time, can extend the right support, in the middle of your crisis and begin to lift any scales, you may have had over your eyes and cause you to see things differently and help you make the right decision. A light has been turned on and you are no longer alone or in darkness. Hope has been given and, you are smiling inside. Someone understands!
Good words excel as they build self-esteem, confidence and rescue a wounded soul, who is falling into the clutch of despair. Sincere words can be like invisible arms, embracing a bruised heart, with the magnificent power of love, and that is when they bring healing. The words “I love you,” warms our soul and puts a spring in our step. The words “I forgive you,” release us to be free and love again.
There is a saying that “actions speaks louder than words.” This could be true as long as we do not read something into an action that isn’t really there. That could be called assuming, if the one in the situation did not have the chance to defend themselves. This is why we have lawyers. Justice is supposed to be about being “innocent until proven guilty.” Isn’t it a delight, when you hear the words “Your Honor, we the jury find him defendant innocent.” Naturally, if you are looking for vengeance, the opposite words would be a real form of satisfaction for you.
What if the good words you are waiting for, aren’t forthcoming? Do not wait for them to come to you, instead, why not begin using good words yourself? An example of this could be: Your husband has a long face because he has lost his job. He gloomily walks in and sits down. When you try to cheer him up, he becomes irritable and just wants to be left alone. What can you say? Because he lost his job, he is grieving over this loss and now concerned over how he will be paying the next mortgage payment. Allow him to think it over and grieve for awhile. He is trying to adjust to this abrupt change, that pulled the rug out from under him. Later on, you will be able to communicate with gentleness. Learn to look for the good, in the sad situation and let your words be few and let him do the talking, then, you will know how to respond. Good can always come from bad if we look for it and follow it through. This man didn’t realize how a much better door would open up for him, two weeks later and if he had stayed where he was, he would have missed a great opportunity, with less hours, more money and something he loved doing! We are a people who can only see about five feet in front of us when we are walking through the night, but we walk by faith; knowing are destination is just up the road. Things are never as they seem to be. There really is a silver lining on each of our clouds. All we have to do is look for them.
Have you ever noticed how a dog looks after it has been bawled out for chewing up something he shouldn't have had? The dog’s head hangs down and he crawlingly walks very slow, over to the corner, to lay down and the only thing he barely lifts up, are his eyes to see if you are still angry. One good forgiving word from you, in the right tone, changes his whole disposition from intense sadness and guilt to an overwhelming joy, all towards you! All of a sudden, this same dog is all over you with such an exuberant appreciation; he would follow you to the ends of the earth! All this took, was one good word.
Your little one comes home from school and is assigned piles of homework. No baseball or television for him tonight. He has a sad face and just doesn’t understand the math questions that he just read. You are by his side, at the table, as you attempt to explain the problem, but he still doesn’t comprehend. What to do? Now you are feeling a few pains of frustration yourself. Look for the good, in a sad situation. A friend of his from school, comes over who is familiar with the problem, and explains it all “his way” and your son finally understands. Your son’s countenance changes from discouragement to relief as a big smile spreads across his face.
